Achieving your objectives

Naran

Ask the question, “What I want, that I am not able to do now”.

You can do this for anything. For example, you want to move from Bangalore and settle down in Chennai. You are having this idea for one year and yet you are not able to do it.

Then ask the following questions:

• What are the advantages and disadvantages in coming to Chennai?
• What are the actions steps should I take?
• Each action step generates emotions. Release them one after another.
• What is the desire behind those emotions? Accept and release them.
• What is the advantage in being in Bangalore? Find out and release that too.

There is an advantage being in Bangalore and it works as a resistance to come to Chennai.

Accept and release your resistance, ‘I release my resistance to come to Chennai’.

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What goes out comes in

Naran

Our contradictory behaviors – Home vs. Work

We will keep criticizing people at home for small things, while we tolerate more in the work place.

On the contrary, when an assistant asks for small things, you may reject it using office procedures as an excuse. Though at home, you might prefer to say yes for whatever your wife asks for.

You may reject somebody and dislike somebody else. The same dislike will operate against you in some other place. Somebody else will reject you or dislike you.

She got into some problem in her office

Anjali was blamed for something she didn’t do, saying that the work comes under her jurisdiction. Whatever explanation she wanted to give was not accepted, even though she is an honest worker.

Then why this should happen to her?

I asked her whether she had rejected someone close to her. She said all along she treated her husband like dirt. I told her when she changes her attitude toward him, her office situation will become alright and it did.

When you are rejecting a person with no reason, then you will be rejected unnecessarily in some other place. If you constantly find fault with somebody then you will be criticised by somebody else. This is a mental cycle.

Abusing somebody who had asked for a donation

If you had insulted somebody unnecessarily then you will be insulted unnecessarily.

Somebody wanted a donation from Arun for charity purpose. He rejected him giving not only flimsy reasons but also criticised him vehemently. Later, after two years, he was charged by custom authorities and asked him to pay more.

We do not observe life at all. The person who came for donation was wounded. Now Arun is wounded. This is law of life.

Therefore, whatever you do, release you desire, emotions behind it and then do it.

Prioritize your needs

AB

Everybody has guilt, anger, resentment, hatred and fear to some extent. May be, because of that, we have developed many diseases and experiences in our lives. In addition, we don’t know whom to forgive.

So can we help ourselves to heal? What step I can take to heal myself?

Naran

Read the postings. Prioritize your needs. Start to heal one by one.

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Want to change past events?

Naran

Acceptance is not compromising. If you want to know about acceptance, then you have to read the great epic Ramayana.

Some things we can accept and some we don’t. We have to probe in and find that out.

For example, you may wish you were aged twenty-five, while you are actually sixty-five now.

Sometimes we say if I would have met him fifteen minutes before his death, I could have done this, done that and so on.

We think like that. There is always an inherent desire to change something. It is all because of Dwesha (a part of mind), which does not like pain in any form.

Affirm many times, “I release my desire to change or control the past”.

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Is anger an unwanted feeling?

Naran

No it is not so. You can express your anger. But, your anger should not develop into hatred towards the person you are angry about. You should not continue to feel angry.

Once the anger has served its purpose, you should forget about it.

When you alight/get down from the bus you are travelling, you will not be running behind it.

In the same way, once you have expressed your emotion, you should not keep thinking about it. The reason being, if you stay with an emotion for a long time, your body will get affected.

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Do this! Problems will be solved automatically!!

Naran

Desire for approval in action

You can list the ways you seek desire for approval:

• Thank you for your appreciation
• I don’t want to hurt his feelings
• I should not reject him
• If I do this, he will be happy
• If I do this, he will not get angry

In addition, list the ways by which you allow yourself to be controlled by others or control others – Desire for approval.

You can term it as fear of rejection or disapproval, for example to influence others through Batch Flower Remedies (list this item too).

We have so much desire to control others and events. We use Bach Flower remedies either with a desire to change ourselves or others.

70% of the time we are operating with this desire and may be more, but not less. If we release this desire, most of the problems will be solved by itself!!

Does a person control you?

Naran

He is controlling me. If you think A is trying to control you, then it means you have fear of being controlled.

• Release the fear of being controlled

Can you release the fear to be controlled?

Why A is controlling you? It is because you have the fear of being controlled.

• Before releasing the fear welcome it and then accept it.

Whenever he controls you, are you resisting him?

• Accept your resistance to him and release it.

Do you like to change him?

• If yes, can you release the desire to change him?

What do you dislike in him?

• Can you let go this dislike?

You may ask a different question.

What is that you disapprove, or reject/dislike in him?

Can you accept him as he is? If you get “No” then continue the exercise. You will not get an immediate yes, as you have dislikes for him.

Does this person cause fear in you? What will happen if you are standing in front of him? Is there is any feeling of insecurity?

• Release your feelings of insecurity.
• Release your feelings of him.

What do you think will happen if you are in front of him? Do you want this fear to happen?  If no, then release it.

• Can you release this wanting to happen?
• Release your fear.

How do you protect yourself? Do you show your anger? Do you resist him? Alternatively, do you have the desire to separate from him or go away from him?

• Release all those desires.

Can you now accept the person as he is? If you get ‘No”, then continue the exercise. Can you have trust in him? Does anyone think that he or she cannot accept him as he is?

Please understand, if you cannot accept him, then he will continue to be in these types of situations. If you do not want to quarrel or lose harmony, you can nullify the charge of emotions by accepting him as he is.

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NLP for accepting a bad relationship

Naran

Brain is the hardware of the mind. The brain always stores memories of the people we like, in one compartment, and the people we do not like in another compartment.

At the same time, we come across people who are neutral to us, to whom we have no likes or dislikes. They do not have a participation in our life. They will be kept in a different compartment of the brain.

Remove the dislike for the person

• Visualize a white screen in front of you.
• Close your eyes. Use your hands and do it.
• Where is the person whom you like? They will be in one place.
• Find out where the person you dislike are stored inside your brain. You will get a feeling in some part of your brain.
• Find out where neutral compartment people are.
• Move the person you dislike to neutral place.

Repeat the exercise over a few days or weeks until you can release the dislike for the person disliked.

Do the releasing first

Do not do this without doing the releasing technique first as you should know how much your feelings and desires are responsible for disharmony caused.

Automatically, the other person you hate will go from you.  Even if he is present, you will not be afraid that he can control you. He will not be in your life to control you anymore.

Therefore, you can concentrate on something else. The NLP exercise will reduce our dislikes, but we have to release first.  Do this on a daily basis.

We should remove our arrogance, feelings and our demanding nature. If you don’t expect positive feelings of release, then do the NLP technique

Why did I select the third compartment?

One can accept the person totally after doing releasing techniques. There is no doubt about that.

Though, if we see that person again, we won’t know what to do. If we put them in a neutral compartment, then we will accept them easily.  Therefore, you should not give up on ‘RULE your MIND’ techniques.

Neutral compartment will help us in accepting a person.

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Do you know why you react negatively?

Naran

Even though you are successful in your career…!!!

By nature, you are pure – positive, fearless, loving etc. In that sense, all of us are united at a level – called as Sub-conscious Mind or Universal Mind, where we have access to this positive energy.

At this level we are perfect, can do anything we want and be anything we would like to be.

However, we bring in the energy of negativity from outside. Thus, fear, anger, hatred etc., comes from outside and not inside us.

Then, how to get rid of the part that you don’t want?

Affirm:

“I RELEASE the part that produces anger”.

“I OPEN and ALIGN WITH the part that activates love, and forgiveness”.

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Audit your thoughts

Ms. SKR

I want to share one wonderful experience with you, which have happened recently. I’m doing one audit for a company and this month there was physical verification of stock.

A fortnight back, I went with my team and compiled the report. The report was throwing out some serious abnormalities. Generally we sign the report on the same day. Since difference was out of proportion, I called the GM of the company and we had a meeting on Monday and I had submitted the report.

After a week, on Monday, one senior official called me and he started blaming me that I had given a wrong report. He never allowed me to talk as well. Then he had sent a mail asking for the qualification of persons carrying on the audit. Immediately after the call I chanted “PINE” and “WILLOW”.

Immediately, I saw R Mohan online and mailed him all the details. He asked me to do “Living with awareness” and also chant the switch words, “BOW TINY CONCEDE TOGETHER REACH DIVINE”. I chanted that.

But, I was kind of hurt. I also chanted, “AGRIMONY HEATHER WATER VIOLET HOLLY HORNBEAM”, which you had mentioned for the peaceful visit in the blog.

Then whenever the worry came, I kept on surrendering the problem to “The Mother”.

I had the constant fear whether they would change the auditor, since I was doing it for my friend.

Suddenly yesterday late evening they called up and said confusion is mainly because they had given the wrong details for book stock and apologized to me.

I thanked the Divine and also was a bit harsh with them for giving the wrong data.

One more interesting input here is the person who called and shouted at me on Monday had already known that the details given by them are wrong on Saturday itself.

How did they change it then? I had to learn a lesson and the healing had taken place.

My many thanks to you and R Mohan!

Naran

Whenever any event happens our reaction is instantaneous. This happens because of the memory of the past behaviour. This pattern if repeated puts you into the karmic loop.

When anything happens, behave opposite to your normal behavior. Here, only releasing techniques help one person.

When you react contrary to your normal behaviour (behaviour includes reaction, your thoughts, your conclusion etc.) you are out of the karmic loop.

Best of luck