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NLP for accepting a bad relationship

Naran

Brain is the hardware of the mind. The brain always stores memories of the people we like, in one compartment, and the people we do not like in another compartment.

At the same time, we come across people who are neutral to us, to whom we have no likes or dislikes. They do not have a participation in our life. They will be kept in a different compartment of the brain.

Remove the dislike for the person

  • Visualize a white screen in front of you.
  • Close your eyes. Use your hands and do it.
  • Where is the person whom you like? They will be in one place.
  • Find out where the person you dislike are stored inside your brain. You will get a feeling in some part of your brain.
  • Find out where neutral compartment people are.
  • Move the person you dislike to neutral place.

Repeat the exercise over a few days or weeks until you can release the dislike for the person disliked.

Do the releasing first

Do not do this without doing the releasing technique first as you should know how much your feelings and desires are responsible for disharmony caused.

Automatically, the other person you hate will go from you.  Even if he is present, you will not be afraid that he can control you. He will not be in your life to control you anymore.

Therefore, you can concentrate on something else. The NLP exercise will reduce our dislikes, but we have to release first.  Do this on a daily basis.

We should remove our arrogance, feelings and our demanding nature. If you don’t expect positive feelings of release, then do the NLP technique

Why did I select the third compartment?

One can accept the person totally after doing releasing techniques. There is no doubt about that.

Though, if we see that person again, we won’t know what to do. If we put them in a neutral compartment, then we will accept them easily.  Therefore, you should not give up on ‘RULE your MIND’ techniques.

Neutral compartment will help us in accepting a person.

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My unfriendly neighbour

Rule: Releasing Option is the Only Option

Shantha had a very unfriendly neighbour in Gita.

She never felt comfortable to approach Gita for any obligation as she is a very fussy person and gets easily irritated.

She Had a Visitor

One day she had a late night visitor. The guest didn’t give Shantha any notice, a norm in this part of the world.

Therefore, Shantha wasn’t ready to handle the situation. Of course, that doesn’t mean she can treat the guest shabbily.

Shantha wanted some stuff to make sure the dinner is special and a good treat for her guest. Unfortunately the shops were closed as it was late night.

Will My Friendly Neighbour Help?

She was sure that Gita could help. But will Gita oblige Shantha at this late hour, when she is so fussy during normal times.

So she had two options: one is to approach Gita and another is to apply the RULE on her emotions and thoughts about Gita. The later option seemed to be easier for Shantha.

She did the RULE for few minutes.

Then There Was One More Visitor

While she was doing the RULE guess what, she had another visitor. It was none other than Gita. Having seen the guest in Shantha’s house she was curious to find out whether she could be of any help to Shantha!!!

How Shantha Executed the RULE: Releasing Act

She had a conversation within herself.

Can I release the fear about Gita? Yes. I just release this fear now.

But there is some more fear. How much can I release – around 30%? No, may be 10%. Yes. I can release 10% of the remaining fear.

Can I release 10% more?

(Like wise, she could release 30% of her fears. Even then she was feeling uncomfortable.)

Release Predominant Thoughts About Situation

She watched her mind. Only one thought repeatedly was going on inside her mind, “Will Gita shout at me if I approach her for help?”.

Ok shall I release that thought part by part? “Yes I can”.

Will I first release the word “shout” from the thought? Yes, I can. I release the word “shout”.

Shall I release “will she “, yes I can. Therefore I release, “will she”.

What are the remaining words?

This question will put off the mind and the whole thought will vanish.

If we do this way, thought becomes meaningless and it will be released automatically.

Peace Dawns

After the words are released individually like this, she became immediately peaceful.

As soon as that happens, then enters our heroine Gita. Is there is a coincidence. Try it out, you will know.

 

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