Desire for approval in action
You can list the ways you seek desire for approval:
- Thank you for your appreciation
- I don’t want to hurt his feelings
- I should not reject him
- If I do this, he will be happy
- If I do this, he will not get angry
In addition, list the ways by which you allow yourself to be controlled by others or control others – Desire for approval.
You can term it as fear of rejection or disapproval, for example to influence others through Batch Flower Remedies (list this item too).
We have so much desire to control others and events. We use Bach Flower remedies either with a desire to change ourselves or others.
70% of the time we are operating with this desire and may be more, but not less. If we release this desire, most of the problems will be solved by itself!!
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List out the fears
Think about your unnecessary fears and worries (over which you cannot do anything).
You list out all those fears.
Release them one by one.
Why fear should not be there?
Then fear will not allow you to love yourself.
How that fears can be removed?
You have to address one fear at a time and say:
- “I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME FIND DIVINE LOVE” (or)
- “I AM SORRY PLEASE FORGIVE ME FIND DIVINE FIBER”.
Meaning of the Switch Word Fiber
“FIND DIVINE FIBRE” means regain the courage in me or regain the trust in me.
When you get fear chant this, “FIND DIVINE FIBER”.
Switch Word Fiber creates a movement, while fear will stop it.
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As you said do not resist allow things to happen!!
How cannot we resist – myself verge of losing job – hubby not yet got job – severe mental stress killing me very badly. How I allow myself not to feel stressed. Please let me know?
When you are on the verge of losing the job, will your worry or fear get the job back?
If so, have fear and worry.
Your fear and worry or anger is what is known as Resistance.
When you accept what is happening, you may see and utilize other avenues.
A message is received (from the incident why you lost the job).
Instead of being overtaken by the rush of emotions and thoughts, and becoming judgmental about what is happening (which is of no use), go within and watch your reaction.
Say, Yes I accept this emotion. I release this.
Go on releasing whatever thought comes to your mind.
After sometime, analyze why this emotion or these types of thoughts come.
Ask yourself is it because of your desire to change the event?
If the answer is yes, say, I release my desire to control or change what is happening.
Ask another question.
Are all the emotions because of fear?
Whatever we fear will manifest.
Say, releasing this fear, I release my desire for security.
Then when the mind is almost clear of restlessness, start chanting “I accept whatever happens totally”.
Check out the “RELEASE your RESISTANCE” CD, which will help you to release your resistance to find happiness and success in life: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2013/04/10/release-your-resistance-cd/
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You want to control your child’s behavior. Instead of studying, he is watching the TV all the time.
- First say, “I release my desire to control him”. Then advise him.
Why? If you tell him anything with judgment, then he will never listen to you for sure.
How do we control our children? They have to be punctual, eat healthy, study well etc.
Thus, we control all their activities because we think they are to be corrected. We don’t allow them to grow in their own way.
- What will happen if we don’t tell them so?
If I don’t tell him then he won’t go to school.
- There is a fear he won’t go to school.
- So I release the fear that he won’t go to school.
- What will happen if he doesn’t go to school? Nothing will happen.
I have a responsibility as a mother. Other people should say that my child is a good child.
- Say, “I release my desire for approval”.
- In addition, say, “I release my desire to control him”.
- Release all the desires and then discipline him.
- There are three basic desires that are operating within us – desire to control, desire to get approval and desire for security.
Even if I wake him up, he doesn’t get up.
- How do you exercise your control with him? By getting angry with him, you are exercising your control over him.
- Release that.
- What’s that you don’t like about him? You dislike him because he is getting up late.
- Release your dislikes about him.
He doesn’t behave as per my expectations. If he gets up on time then he will be no 1 student
- This is your expectation.
- Release all your expectations about him and then you discipline him
Each and every matter you need to analyze like this and then take your actions.
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