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Is anger an unwanted feeling?

Naran

No it is not so. You can express your anger. But, your anger should not develop into hatred towards the person you are angry about. You should not continue to feel angry.

Once the anger has served its purpose, you should forget about it.

When you alight/get down from the bus you are travelling, you will not be running behind it.

In the same way, once you have expressed your emotion, you should not keep thinking about it. The reason being, if you stay with an emotion for a long time, your body will get affected.

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The need for Letting GO

STOP the MIND’s Influence on YOU Part II

Read the first part of the article here: https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/how-to-stop-the-mind-influencing-us-part-i/

Letting go the thoughts

How can we do it that?

How thoughts can be let off?

There will be resistance inside the mind to do so, as it does not want us to move forward spiritually in life.

Letting go seen inside our body

Is this letting go is something new that we have never seen?

If you watch your body, it is letting go. However, mind does not do that.

Let say you like eating Jangri (Indian sweet). Can you keep it in the mouth for long? It has to be released to the stomach. After digestion, if the stomach does not release it, then you have to go to hospital. Nature of the mouth is to let go.

Stomach has to let go to intestines. If intestines refuse to let go, imagine what will happen to us. Here cooperation among body organs is a must.

Jangri takes different forms in the end, losing its original form after digestion, absorption and elimination operations of the digestive tract.

Skin let go by sweating. Lungs exhales carbon dioxide. If heart stops circulating blood one-tenth of a second, then you will die. It does letting in and letting out blood.

Letting go action in nature

Morning has to go for noon to come and afternoon goes for evening to come. Letting go happens in a circular manner. Similarly, sun goes, and Moon comes.

Letting go is the process of nature. However, for mind it’s not possible. It does opposite of it, by holding on to things.

Holding on is the nature of the mind

Mind is the enemy to Body and Soul.

When you hold on to a thought, it means there is stagnation. Then you will have less of Prana (energy). Mind is always stagnated.

Be Aware! Be Alert! Release the Emotions and Thoughts behind every Incident or Event

Dear Naran,

I, along with several other people attended the class last Saturday on Living with Awareness. Before I left home, my younger son had excitedly asked me what class I was attending. I’d said it was a class by my Bach Flowers Teacher, and I was going to learn more ways to help myself and everyone at home.

The class actually started with me wondering about what the workshop was all about. During the initial explanation on how the class can empower us to handle life situations, you asked someone to share a recent incident that has caused stress.

Not really looking for answers, but curious to see where this might lead, I was the person who shared my worry over misplacing a receipt from the laundry service where my husband’s expensive suit was given. I did not exaggerate.  This suit was more expensive than my wedding sari and wedding reception sari combined!! Why we had to spend so much money on a suit was a thought that crossed my mind, but right then I had to find the receipt or forever I would feel terrible about my carelessness.

You told me to accept the anxiety and release it. And release it slowly, I did. The remaining worry and fear also left me little by little after you correctly helped me to recognise that those negative emotions were attached to the value I placed on the item, the desire to own, and my worry that I will be seen as a careless person by my husband. I released them all, and felt strangely empty.

I knew things were not going to happen on their own, and knew I would be going back to searching for it again. However, this time I would not be driven by fear or be so stressed that I would be annoyed at my kids for nothing.

The rest of the class was interesting, and when the workshop ended, I stopped to run some errands. Around 5pm, I was headed back home when I saw the Red Roses Laundry shop to my right. I decided I had to be bold and ask if they would give it with an ID proof or just convince them with my description. At the very least, I wanted to tell them to hold on to it, and not give to anyone who comes with a receipt.

I had to drive further to make a U-turn, and sensing my anxiety and doubts, I put what I had learnt in the class to full use. I recognised the thoughts, accepted them and released them over and over again. I went a little further and imagined a situation where I am flatly denied, then accepted that disappointment and disillusionment and released it. Going even further, I envisioned a situation where I get what I want, accepted that happy thought and released the feeling of excitement, and elation that I would feel after such an event. I repeatedly accepted and released until I was at the shop’s doorstep.

I went up to the man there, and said, “I’d given my husband’s expensive suit and now I’ve misplaced the receipt. He has an important meeting to attend. I can get you photocopy of my voter’s ID, and proof of address… what should I do?” To this the man said, “Nothing. Just tell me what colour it is.”

I clearly remember accepting the good news, but feeling no strong emotions – just breathing a lot easier! Then, he went to search after enquiring if I’d given anything else with it. I said no, while I gave him the suit’s description, approximate date it was given etc. After less than 10 minutes, he emerged from his store-room, showed me my husband’s suit and said, “You said no, but you’d also given a lady’s top with this. Here it is.” I looked at the simple white top that had been gifted by a friend. This one had a value that only memories could give, and no money could match.

I left the shop thanking the man wholeheartedly, and thanking you too Naran, for everything. The exercise I’d done to release the happiness after success worked wonderfully. I went back home and calmly presented the suit to my husband. He thought I’d found the receipt. I said no. He asked if I’d convinced the shop after giving IDs. I said no.  

I said, “I told you I was going to learn ways to help everyone at home. I used what I learnt today to handle this situation.”

My husband was amazed, and made me tell him all about the class later. I did, and am grateful for the class for all that I learnt.

Thank you,

Roopa

WATCH Out!

Your spouse may not react if you do the following…He will simply accept whatever you do…

Saroja: I feel guilty.

Naran: Why?

Saroja: For the last 12 months I have been saving Rs.100/ to present a watch to my brother. I have to give that without my husband knowing it.  My conscience pricks that I am doing something wrong.

Naran: Welcome the guilt feeling and release it.

  • I welcome this terrible guilt. I release this guilt.

Naran: Is it still there?

Saroja: Yes. More than guilt, fear is there.

Naran: What are the thoughts in your state of fear?

Saroja: If he comes to know I will be doomed. This thought is obsessing me.

Naran: Fearing something means unconsciously or secretly means that we want this to happen. Do you want your life to be doomed by your husband?

Saroja: No.

Naran: Then accept it and release it.

  • I release my wanting to be doomed.

Saroja: Sir, my fear is, if he comes to know, he will abuse me. I will be not allowed to see my parents and brother.

  • I accept that I want to be physically abused by my husband. I let go of this fear.
  •  In addition, I let go of my desire to be abused by my husband. 
  • I want to stop meeting my parents. I accept this desire and let go of my desire to stop meeting my parents.
  • I release my state of insecurity because I am safe.

Repeat.

Saroja: I feel better.  I feel comfortable.

Naran: Why do you want to present a watch to your brother on his birth day?

Saroja: I am happy to see him happy.

Naran: How do you know that your gift will make him happy?

Saroja: He does not have one.

Naran: Your gift will make him love you better.

Saroja: Yes. I want to feel loved by him. I need his love.

Naran: Accept your need and desire for his love and release.

  • I accept that I need his love and there is desire for his approval. I release my desire for his approval.

Repeat.

Will you be ready to tell your husband about this?

Saroja: No.

Naran: Release again you insecurity.

Saroja: There still some fear.

  • I release my insecurity.

Saroja: Instead of him coming to know about this, I think rather it is better for me to tell him.

On the day of the incident, she describes in her own words

My fear started increasing.  There was tension in the stomach.

  • I accept there is tension in the stomach.  I release my tension in the stomach.

My body was becoming heavy.

  • I accept my body is becoming heavy. I release the heaviness.

I am ok now.

  • I accept that I am ok. I release this okay feeling.
  • Will he shout at me if I tell him about the watch gift? Let go, let go.

Silence for a few seconds.

  • I can’t face his eyes. Let go, let go.

Some more silence.

  • How do I tell him? Let go, let go.

Silence again. I gave the cup of coffee to my husband. My hands become cold.

  • I accept my hands had become cold. I release the cold sensation in my hands.

My hands shivered.

  • I accept that I am shivering and I release this shivering sensation.
  • I release my state of insecurity (I repeat this affirmation few times).

Suddenly all my fears were gone and I became curious to know how he will react when I tell him about the watch gift. After taking the coffee, suddenly my husband asked me, “Your brother phoned up. It seems every year you buy him a gift. He asked me to remind you. What is your plan for this year?” “I am planning to buy him a watch”.

Lot of happiness joy enthusiasm fills me up.

  • I accept that I am joyful. I release my joy.

“That is a good idea. We will buy one. “I told him easily, “I have already saved Rs.1200/- towards that“. “Fantastic, then we will buy the watch today itself”.

When I went inside to change my dress there was joy and happiness.

  • I accept I am joyful. Can I release this joyful state? Yes.  I release my state of joy. I release my happiness.

When I released my feelings of joy, an aura of peace was there, which can’t be described in words.

New Unexpected Avenues for Money

Your “Living with Awareness” class was very good. I felt that your questionnaire on money had a good amount of healing techniques behind it.

On Monday, I received two calls; one was from a client in Chennai and another one from a friend in Mumbai. Both are related to audits. Both of them called me up to find out what (my) name should be there on the cheque(s) they are about to send.

The total cheque amount is for Rs. 70,000/-. In both the cases, I have not put in much energy or time. I have seen the files in the system and simply approved it.

What I’m trying to emphasise is that money can come from new avenues as well as totally unexpected ones. In fact, we were all saying that “money does not grow in trees” etc. These incidents prove it may not be true after all.

– Mrs. Sasikala Ravivenkatesan

I feel small, when he criticizes me

A Sample Lesson on how to handle your life issues

Naran: Welcome this mental state.

1. I welcome this feeling.

Naran: Can you release this feeling of being small?

Raji: Yes.

2. I release the feeling of looking small.

Naran: What happens when he criticizes you? Do you think that your husband is trying to control you?

Raji: Yes.

3. I release the belief that my husband is trying to control me.

Naran: What is your reaction when he criticizes you?

Raji: Inwardly, I just criticize and wanting to resist him.

Naran: What is the criticism?

Raji: Idiot! You never understand me. You need to be tortured in your office and so on.

Welcome these thoughts and release them.

4. I release the thought “You never understand me.” I release the thought, “You need to be tortured.”

5. I welcome that I resist him.

6. I let go of wanting to resist him.

Naran: Resisting means you want to change the person. Welcome and release the desire to control or change him.

7. I welcome my desire to control him.

8. I release my desire to change him.

Repeat.

Naran: Can you accept him as he is?

Raji: No.

Naran: Then release this desire to change him again.

Raji: My anger is terrible. I cannot go further.  I am stuck up.

9. Welcome it and release it.

Naran: If you hold on to this anger, you will have same situations repeated differently on different days. Because what you focus will invite the same energy and thus same situations. You can say the following and find out whether you can go further deep:

“This is how God has made him. I need not correct God”.

“I just allow him to be as he is. Let me be also as I am”.

Naran: What else did you feel when the person is around you?

Raji: I feel insecure and feel threatened.

Welcome this feeling.

10. I welcome that I feel unsafe and insecure.

Release it.

11. I release the feeling of insecurity. I release my wanting to have more security.

Naran: Repeat and see what happens. Are you feeling safe now? Why should you feel threatened and unsafe? Just ponder over this question.

May be, you feel safe to some extent. Then do the releasing again. If you still feel unsafe, you are intimating to the other person you are powerless. This will further increase the fearful events. Repeat the releasing till you feel safe or till you get a sense of well being.

Raji: When my husband or anybody criticizes me unnecessarily I feel I am rejected; I am insulted.

Naran:  That means you have a desire for his approval.

Raji: Yes. I always do things to please him. I am careful not to make him angry. All my actions are there to please him or to escape from his disapproval.

Naran: Welcome your desire for approval and release.

12. I welcome this desire for approval.

13. I release this desire for approval.

Repeat.

Raji leaves Naran with a feeling of calm and composure. That’s the advantage of doing living with awareness exercises. It leaves you with a sense of bliss and gives you a renewed strength and confidence to handle your problems.

I am jobless, what should I do?

Rule: Increase Your Self-esteem by Working with Others

  • You can learn a lot by observing people.
  • Learn to understand your existing relationships – with your family members, friends, and relatives.
  • Move with them closely, express and communicate with love as if you were meeting them for the first time and as though this would be the last time you are going to meet them.
  • Contribute something to them lovingly. Help them in any manner you can. It need not be financial.

This will boost your self confidence and enthusiasm. Normally one feels confident and enthusiastic only after getting the job. Now, you are acquiring this state before getting the job. This will also make you a better person. You will also learn how to relate to your colleagues and superiors when you move to your future workplace.

When you are ready to learn anything new, then this period would become a period of relaxation, instead of a period of frustration.

Both Doubt and Solution are inside us

Different Parts of the Mind

The Questioning Part of the Mind

Thoughts are negative or positive as classified by us. Whenever mind raises a doubt about a given situation treat it as a question. How do I do that? For example, a thought may come to you. “Am I capable? Can I do this?” Don’t feel sad about this. Treat this as a question by one part of the mind. One part of the mind wants to know that. So that part of the mind puts a question. Provide an answer it, as if you answer to a person, in front of you.

The Answering Part of the Mind

Mind works by parts. One part of your mind genuinely asks the question, keeping your welfare in mind. Instead of worrying about the questioning part, just answer that question. Then mind will ask stop raising doubts. Answering is done by another part.

We Can Make Our Life Situations Positive

If you raise yourself spiritually, everything will become positive around you. No unwanted thoughts can come in front of Ramana Maharishi – the great sage of Arunachala. Even a thief will keep his habitual self of robbing others quiet. Like that we could also influence the situations around us.

Negative Situations Begs you, “Please heal me!”

If you feel negative vibes around you, the message to you from it is, “please heal me”. If you can heal it, heal. On the contrary if you are afraid of it, then move out of the situation. Try to heal the negative vibes by calling the Sun God, and ask it to clear it. The negative vibes will turn into love and light and bless us in turn.

God is inside us – a gentle reminder to you

When somebody is angry it shows that he needs healing and he is asking for it indirectly. Somebody may ask it directly. Instead of thinking of why they are behaving negatively, ask inside yourself what you can do to them. What are the lessons we can learn from the situation. We can’t change the circumstances and people around, we can only change ourselves. Why we are asked to change? So as to remind us that god is inside us. Then automatically we become the god and we will have the power to heal.

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