No it is not so. You can express your anger. But, your anger should not develop into hatred towards the person you are angry about. You should not continue to feel angry.
Once the anger has served its purpose, you should forget about it.
When you alight/get down from the bus you are travelling, you will not be running behind it.
In the same way, once you have expressed your emotion, you should not keep thinking about it. The reason being, if you stay with an emotion for a long time, your body will get affected.
Unpack your anger: http://wp.me/ptUIO-46
A Brief on Bach Flower Remedies: http://wp.me/ptUDl-7E
Referring the article: https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/03/02/moving-to-a-new-location/
I am amazed reading this, as today I was reading old articles of 2009. I was filled with eagerness to learn more and regret that I “wasted” my last four years.
Then I started repeating:
- “I release my desire to learn more”,
- “I release regrets of the past”
- “I accept the present”.
Soon my frame of mind was positive and cheerful again!!
This is a magic mantra. All day now, I repeat this for all things! And finding myself closer and closer to the person I was – before all the stressful life events (happened to me).
From RULE your MIND Workshop notes
1. Release the emotions you felt during the day
Do this exercise for all of them – taking one emotion at a time. Even if it is a positive feeling, release that. Find out the state of the mind and do the steps:
- “I welcome this state”,
- “I accept it”
- “Can I release that?”
Even if it is a negative emotion (or feeling) like anger, you release it.
Whatever that does not go, write it in a notebook and continue to work on it, until it goes.
2. Release emotions felt during the last one week
What are the predominant emotions you had? During last seven days what incidents happened? What emotions you felt?
Welcome each one of them, accept them and release them by keep saying,” I release, I release”.
3. Repeat the exercise for last one month
Are you able to remember any emotions? Are there are any emotion still persisting? When I say emotions, I mean not just negative emotions but also positive emotions.
“You are entitled to action only. This is the Law of Karma. Leave the fruit to me” – says Krishna.
A simple way to implement it
Living with Awareness is an important subject. If you apply this technique, you do not need attend lectures on Bhagavat Gita.
Living with awareness is a life process. If it is done regularly, it can change our lives significantly.
Do it systematically.
Play it like a game. Do not think it as an exercise.
To put it simple, you release all thoughts and feelings prior to action.
Releasing thoughts associated with an action
You get a phone call.
We assume it is a bad call.
We think and get irritated, why I should get such calls during late nights.
Can you release this irritation? Affirm, “I let go this irritation”.
Our actions are contaminated with unwanted thoughts
Whenever you are about to perform an action, it is preceded by thoughts.
Release those thoughts.
That’s does not mean you are prevented from doing the action. You just do the action.
Then you are in the present – without any thought, and only doing actions.
If some other thoughts come, tell them, “You can come later. This is not the time for you now.”
If you do any action, without any thought or feeling, then its 100 percent completed.
You are entitled only to act
You are not entitled to think or feel before an action.
If you tell the thought to go, it will go.
After the action, if the results are not to our expectations, we will comment badly about concerned people. We will remark, “I wasted so much time with them”.
Affirm then, “I release the thought. I let go this thought.”
When you put a counter thought like this, the mind gets confused as it cannot continuously change its thought flow or pattern.
After releasing all the thoughts that appears in your mind, comes the time for your action(s).
I and my boy-friend broke up last year though we love each other even now.
It all happened because of his friends as they cropped up misunderstandings between us. And he isn’t able to see that.
And I know he doesn’t have that much of courage to tell me that he still loves me. I really want to get back together with him.
Then please suggest me something so that I forget him easily as I am trying to get over him. But, as we work at the same place, it’s really difficult for me to see him every time everywhere around me and that turns me off.
And I am full of sad feelings.
Or tell me how I can get my real soul mate.
I could understand your pangs of love.
Only for your highest good I suggested that.
I honestly feel that you should lead a happy life.
Can everybody be happy?
One has to learn to be happy in spite of events.
When we want something intently, and when we resist what is happening then what we get is pain. Though we want pleasure, our resistance to any event and our incomplete understanding of the divine order, gives us pain only.
Just observe what is going on in the mind.
- As and when any thought come, just say, “Why not I release this? Yes, I let go of this thought?”
- Release everything – every feeling, every thought – that prevents you to forget him.
- If any thought or feeling does not get released, find out the desire behind this feeling or thought. If there is a desire to possess him release that desire.
- If there is a desire to change him or the event release that desire too.
Do the releasing techniques as given above.
If you can buy Bach flower remedies from your local homeopathy shop then buy:
- CHICORY (to overcome the love pangs)
- WALNUT (to release resistance and break away )
- WILLOW (to overcome resentment and anger towards friends)
- HORNBEAM (to move on)
Take those flower remedies by putting 6 pills of each in a bottle of water and keep on sipping that water from morning to evening.
Do this sipping for 15 days.
Put the pills once every day.