Develop confidence when jobless
You can learn a lot by observing people. Learn to understand your existing relationships – with your family members, friends, and relatives.
Move with them closely, express and communicate with love as if you were meeting them for the first time and as though this would be the last time you are going to meet them.
Contribute something to them lovingly. Help them in any manner you can. It need not be financial.
This will boost your self-confidence and enthusiasm. Normally one feels confident and enthusiastic only after getting the job. Now, you are acquiring this state before getting the job.
This will also make you a better person. You will also learn how to relate to your colleagues and superiors when you move to your future workplace.
When you are ready to learn anything new, then this period would become a period of relaxation, instead of a period of frustration.
A thought is a thought. Who says it is positive?
We say so as judging, categorizing, good or bad, likes and dislikes, it is the creation of the human mind.
For the divinity there is no judgment at all. It doesn’t judge that this is positive and that is negative.
So good thought or bad thought, everything has to be released.
Only when you do so, then only you will find what real happiness is. That is Sat Chit Ananda Roopini (goddess of ever-green-joy).
However, even to feel the Sat Chit Anandam (ever-green-joy), one should have the grace of that energy.
Unless we have the grace of the divine, we cannot do any action and move forward in life. At the same time unless we take the action, divine grace will not come. Both are dependent on each other.
We are not doing anything new
There is nothing like past. Analyze your life now. Analyze your emotions and relationships now.
This is what you did in the previous Janma. If you do analyze and release the present situation, that means you are also handling the karma efficiently.
We are not doing anything new. Whatever we have done so far is the continuation of the previous life(s).
Then how to deviate or overlook the karma?
When you start thinking differently about a particular issue then your past life karma will not have any effect on you, because you are going on a different path.
Thinking differently and behaving differently in a situation is very important.
If somebody is having a contrary opinion to you, our normal nature is to resist it or have a judgment about that person. Then how to go about it differently?
It means, “Yes that person is telling his views. I have my own views. I appreciate his views and let him have his views and let me not try to change it either”.
In that manner, you mend your ways and deviate from the past. For each and every behavior, find out how you behaved in the past and deviate from that. Then you are not re-living your past.
Only when you are not reliving your past then only you can create a new future.
That is another subject called as ‘Past-Life Healing’.
Read the first part of the article here: https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/how-to-stop-the-mind-influencing-us-part-i/
Letting go the thoughts
How can we do it that?
How thoughts can be let off?
There will be resistance inside the mind to do so, as it does not want us to move forward spiritually in life.
Letting go seen inside our body
Is this letting go is something new that we have never seen?
If you watch your body, it is letting go. However, mind does not do that.
Let say you like eating Jangri (Indian sweet). Can you keep it in the mouth for long? It has to be released to the stomach. After digestion, if the stomach does not release it, then you have to go to hospital. Nature of the mouth is to let go.
Stomach has to let go to intestines. If intestines refuse to let go, imagine what will happen to us. Here cooperation among body organs is a must.
Jangri takes different forms in the end, losing its original form after digestion, absorption and elimination operations of the digestive tract.
Skin let go by sweating. Lungs exhales carbon dioxide. If heart stops circulating blood one-tenth of a second, then you will die. It does letting in and letting out blood.
Letting go action in nature
Morning has to go for noon to come and afternoon goes for evening to come. Letting go happens in a circular manner. Similarly, sun goes, and Moon comes.
Letting go is the process of nature. However, for mind it’s not possible. It does opposite of it, by holding on to things.
Holding on is the nature of the mind
Mind is the enemy to Body and Soul.
When you hold on to a thought, it means there is stagnation. Then you will have less of Prana (energy). Mind is always stagnated.
I and my boy-friend broke up last year though we love each other even now.
It all happened because of his friends as they cropped up misunderstandings between us. And he isn’t able to see that.
And I know he doesn’t have that much of courage to tell me that he still loves me. I really want to get back together with him.
Then please suggest me something so that I forget him easily as I am trying to get over him. But, as we work at the same place, it’s really difficult for me to see him every time everywhere around me and that turns me off.
And I am full of sad feelings.
Or tell me how I can get my real soul mate.
I could understand your pangs of love.
Only for your highest good I suggested that.
I honestly feel that you should lead a happy life.
Can everybody be happy?
One has to learn to be happy in spite of events.
When we want something intently, and when we resist what is happening then what we get is pain. Though we want pleasure, our resistance to any event and our incomplete understanding of the divine order, gives us pain only.
Just observe what is going on in the mind.
- As and when any thought come, just say, “Why not I release this? Yes, I let go of this thought?”
- Release everything – every feeling, every thought – that prevents you to forget him.
- If any thought or feeling does not get released, find out the desire behind this feeling or thought. If there is a desire to possess him release that desire.
- If there is a desire to change him or the event release that desire too.
Do the releasing techniques as given above.
If you can buy Bach flower remedies from your local homeopathy shop then buy:
- CHICORY (to overcome the love pangs)
- WALNUT (to release resistance and break away )
- WILLOW (to overcome resentment and anger towards friends)
- HORNBEAM (to move on)
Take those flower remedies by putting 6 pills of each in a bottle of water and keep on sipping that water from morning to evening.
Do this sipping for 15 days.
Put the pills once every day.