Develop confidence when jobless
You can learn a lot by observing people. Learn to understand your existing relationships – with your family members, friends, and relatives.
Move with them closely, express and communicate with love as if you were meeting them for the first time and as though this would be the last time you are going to meet them.
Contribute something to them lovingly. Help them in any manner you can. It need not be financial.
This will boost your self-confidence and enthusiasm. Normally one feels confident and enthusiastic only after getting the job. Now, you are acquiring this state before getting the job.
This will also make you a better person. You will also learn how to relate to your colleagues and superiors when you move to your future workplace.
When you are ready to learn anything new, then this period would become a period of relaxation, instead of a period of frustration.
Read the first part here: http://healbyeft.wordpress.com/2012/12/07/learning-the-art-of-white-magic/
But to train our mind, which has been seeking love from outside world from many lives and suddenly to turn it towards the unseen force of love of god, is the most difficult thing to do.
Is there any easy way to surrender to god, or to train our mind which is not used to that process till now?
How did you learn the alphabets? Was it not difficult at the young age of 4 or 5? Are you still finding it difficult?
Nothing is easier. There is no short cut.
How do you turn inward?
When there is anger, what we do? We see the person outside, react to what he says and then the altercation starts.
When any emotion is kindled, check yourself from participating. Instead, go within yourself and ask, “Why this anger in me? From where (inside me), it is coming?”
If the physical indication points to me – my hunger and thirst, I immediately satiate my hunger and quench my thirst. Similarly if there is anger in me, I have to release it, instead of inciting it.
Try this with any of your emotions and thoughts. Release anything as and when it arises. Just say, “Can I release this? Say I release this anger…”
Referring the article: https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/03/02/moving-to-a-new-location/
I am amazed reading this, as today I was reading old articles of 2009. I was filled with eagerness to learn more and regret that I “wasted” my last four years.
Then I started repeating:
- “I release my desire to learn more”,
- “I release regrets of the past”
- “I accept the present”.
Soon my frame of mind was positive and cheerful again!!
This is a magic mantra. All day now, I repeat this for all things! And finding myself closer and closer to the person I was – before all the stressful life events (happened to me).
From RULE your MIND Workshop notes
1. Release the emotions you felt during the day
Do this exercise for all of them – taking one emotion at a time. Even if it is a positive feeling, release that. Find out the state of the mind and do the steps:
- “I welcome this state”,
- “I accept it”
- “Can I release that?”
Even if it is a negative emotion (or feeling) like anger, you release it.
Whatever that does not go, write it in a notebook and continue to work on it, until it goes.
2. Release emotions felt during the last one week
What are the predominant emotions you had? During last seven days what incidents happened? What emotions you felt?
Welcome each one of them, accept them and release them by keep saying,” I release, I release”.
3. Repeat the exercise for last one month
Are you able to remember any emotions? Are there are any emotion still persisting? When I say emotions, I mean not just negative emotions but also positive emotions.
Before doing anything, before speaking anything, ask yourself, “Will the Divine be happy and bless me if I do this or speak this?”
If you think that the divine will be happy and bless, then you may proceed.
Then you will be loved by one and all.
Why we are doing this exercise?
It makes you to be silent, or to train yourself to be in silence. We cannot know the value of silence.
As you reduce your speech, silence will automatically come. Silence will develop as you stop using unnecessary words.
Lead a Life of No-Karma
The more you try to be silent or reduce your speech you will come out of your karma very easily. The moment you utter a word, you are incurring your karma.
You are not responsible for any word or emotion that is not under your control. If you just say “RELEASE”, the emotion or thought will go.
Instead of doing that, with emotion/thought as your motivating force, if you utter a word or do a thing then you are entering into karma.
When there is conflict or quarrel you have to be very careful in using your words. If we speak unnecessarily it will bounce back on you at a later stage.
(Only here) You should use your analytical mind and restrain from such talks.