Develop confidence when jobless
You can learn a lot by observing people. Learn to understand your existing relationships – with your family members, friends, and relatives.
Move with them closely, express and communicate with love as if you were meeting them for the first time and as though this would be the last time you are going to meet them.
Contribute something to them lovingly. Help them in any manner you can. It need not be financial.
This will boost your self-confidence and enthusiasm. Normally one feels confident and enthusiastic only after getting the job. Now, you are acquiring this state before getting the job.
This will also make you a better person. You will also learn how to relate to your colleagues and superiors when you move to your future workplace.
When you are ready to learn anything new, then this period would become a period of relaxation, instead of a period of frustration.
Read the first part here: http://healbyeft.wordpress.com/2012/12/07/learning-the-art-of-white-magic/
But to train our mind, which has been seeking love from outside world from many lives and suddenly to turn it towards the unseen force of love of god, is the most difficult thing to do.
Is there any easy way to surrender to god, or to train our mind which is not used to that process till now?
How did you learn the alphabets? Was it not difficult at the young age of 4 or 5? Are you still finding it difficult?
Nothing is easier. There is no short cut.
How do you turn inward?
When there is anger, what we do? We see the person outside, react to what he says and then the altercation starts.
When any emotion is kindled, check yourself from participating. Instead, go within yourself and ask, “Why this anger in me? From where (inside me), it is coming?”
If the physical indication points to me – my hunger and thirst, I immediately satiate my hunger and quench my thirst. Similarly if there is anger in me, I have to release it, instead of inciting it.
Try this with any of your emotions and thoughts. Release anything as and when it arises. Just say, “Can I release this? Say I release this anger…”
Referring the article: https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/03/02/moving-to-a-new-location/
I am amazed reading this, as today I was reading old articles of 2009. I was filled with eagerness to learn more and regret that I “wasted” my last four years.
Then I started repeating:
- “I release my desire to learn more”,
- “I release regrets of the past”
- “I accept the present”.
Soon my frame of mind was positive and cheerful again!!
This is a magic mantra. All day now, I repeat this for all things! And finding myself closer and closer to the person I was – before all the stressful life events (happened to me).
From RULE your MIND Workshop notes
1. Release the emotions you felt during the day
Do this exercise for all of them – taking one emotion at a time. Even if it is a positive feeling, release that. Find out the state of the mind and do the steps:
- “I welcome this state”,
- “I accept it”
- “Can I release that?”
Even if it is a negative emotion (or feeling) like anger, you release it.
Whatever that does not go, write it in a notebook and continue to work on it, until it goes.
2. Release emotions felt during the last one week
What are the predominant emotions you had? During last seven days what incidents happened? What emotions you felt?
Welcome each one of them, accept them and release them by keep saying,” I release, I release”.
3. Repeat the exercise for last one month
Are you able to remember any emotions? Are there are any emotion still persisting? When I say emotions, I mean not just negative emotions but also positive emotions.
My son has a resistance to work. He will go late to office. He was warned three times.
One day he decides to go to office in casual wear. Even though I warned him, he didn’t want to listen to me.
Then, I decided to affirm, ‘I release my desire to change or control him’.
You have affirmed correctly. Please do it as many times as you can.
On and off our mind will not keep quiet. So we need to release our desire to control or change somebody.
“My wife is very possessive and highly interfering”.
Take one quality of your wife at a time.
Assume that quality is within you. In fact, you will be having those qualities inside you. That’s why you have attracted her to you.
Now, do the following, taking one quality a day:
- First day: “I release my interfering nature to Chicory.” Keeping this intention in mind, chant “CHICORY”.
- Second day: “I release my possessive nature to Chicory”. Chant “CHICORY”.
- Third day: “I release my insecurities to Chicory”. Chant “CHICORY”.
While doing the above exercise, please do the following too:
- Be sure to thank the opposite person for revealing the inadequacies and shortcomings inside you.
- Reflect on your past, find out whether you have exhibited these qualities towards others, and then release them to Chicory.
This does not mean that there is no place for emotions in life. However, they should be used as different tool and then they had to be let go. There is place for anger too, but if it not forgotten or released then it becomes a rancor.