Our contradictory behaviors – Home vs. Work
We will keep criticizing people at home for small things, while we tolerate more in the work place.
On the contrary, when an assistant asks for small things, you may reject it using office procedures as an excuse. Though at home, you might prefer to say yes for whatever your wife asks for.
You may reject somebody and dislike somebody else. The same dislike will operate against you in some other place. Somebody else will reject you or dislike you.
She got into some problem in her office
Anjali was blamed for something she didn’t do, saying that the work comes under her jurisdiction. Whatever explanation she wanted to give was not accepted, even though she is an honest worker.
Then why this should happen to her?
I asked her whether she had rejected someone close to her. She said all along she treated her husband like dirt. I told her when she changes her attitude toward him, her office situation will become alright and it did.
When you are rejecting a person with no reason, then you will be rejected unnecessarily in some other place. If you constantly find fault with somebody then you will be criticised by somebody else. This is a mental cycle.
Abusing somebody who had asked for a donation
If you had insulted somebody unnecessarily then you will be insulted unnecessarily.
Somebody wanted a donation from Arun for charity purpose. He rejected him giving not only flimsy reasons but also criticised him vehemently. Later, after two years, he was charged by custom authorities and asked him to pay more.
We do not observe life at all. The person who came for donation was wounded. Now Arun is wounded. This is law of life.
Therefore, whatever you do, release you desire, emotions behind it and then do it.
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No it is not so. You can express your anger. But, your anger should not develop into hatred towards the person you are angry about. You should not continue to feel angry.
Once the anger has served its purpose, you should forget about it.
When you alight/get down from the bus you are travelling, you will not be running behind it.
In the same way, once you have expressed your emotion, you should not keep thinking about it. The reason being, if you stay with an emotion for a long time, your body will get affected.
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How liking for a person operates inside the mind?
Take one person what you like about him and what you don’t like about him, say your spouse for example.
You have a liking for the person. What is the desire operating behind this like?
For some reason you like him. Whoever listens to us we like them. If somebody argues with us, even if they tell the truth we don’t like them.
Therefore, when we like somebody we have to like him for some reason. It could be based on desire for approval or desire to associate.
- Therefore, shall we say, ‘I release my desire to like him’.
Because we have desire to possess, when that person is around, we feel happy.
When they go away from us, then we do not feel happy and start hating that person.
Did you release the liking for that person? We are not sure, so we are not releasing it.
When you release your likes about a person, everything will go on well between you and the concerned person. Love will get stronger.
- Release all your likes and dislike for the same person.
How does dislike operates?
If they are like this, then I am happy about them. Thus, a desire to control or change the person operates here.
- Therefore, welcome your dislike and release your dislike.
- Then accept your desire to control and release it as well.
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