He is controlling me. If you think A is trying to control you, then it means you have fear of being controlled.
- Release the fear of being controlled
Can you release the fear to be controlled?
Why A is controlling you? It is because you have the fear of being controlled.
- Before releasing the fear welcome it and then accept it.
Whenever he controls you, are you resisting him?
- Accept your resistance to him and release it.
Do you like to change him?
- If yes, can you release the desire to change him?
What do you dislike in him?
- Can you let go this dislike?
You may ask a different question.
What is that you disapprove, or reject/dislike in him?
Can you accept him as he is? If you get “No” then continue the exercise. You will not get an immediate yes, as you have dislikes for him.
Does this person cause fear in you? What will happen if you are standing in front of him? Is there is any feeling of insecurity?
- Release your feelings of insecurity.
- Release your feelings of him.
What do you think will happen if you are in front of him? Do you want this fear to happen? If no, then release it.
- Can you release this wanting to happen?
- Release your fear.
How do you protect yourself? Do you show your anger? Do you resist him? Alternatively, do you have the desire to separate from him or go away from him?
- Release all those desires.
Can you now accept the person as he is? If you get ‘No”, then continue the exercise. Can you have trust in him? Does anyone think that he or she cannot accept him as he is?
Please understand, if you cannot accept him, then he will continue to be in these types of situations. If you do not want to quarrel or lose harmony, you can nullify the charge of emotions by accepting him as he is.
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Brain is the hardware of the mind. The brain always stores memories of the people we like, in one compartment, and the people we do not like in another compartment.
At the same time, we come across people who are neutral to us, to whom we have no likes or dislikes. They do not have a participation in our life. They will be kept in a different compartment of the brain.
Remove the dislike for the person
- Visualize a white screen in front of you.
- Close your eyes. Use your hands and do it.
- Where is the person whom you like? They will be in one place.
- Find out where the person you dislike are stored inside your brain. You will get a feeling in some part of your brain.
- Find out where neutral compartment people are.
- Move the person you dislike to neutral place.
Repeat the exercise over a few days or weeks until you can release the dislike for the person disliked.
Do the releasing first
Do not do this without doing the releasing technique first as you should know how much your feelings and desires are responsible for disharmony caused.
Automatically, the other person you hate will go from you. Even if he is present, you will not be afraid that he can control you. He will not be in your life to control you anymore.
Therefore, you can concentrate on something else. The NLP exercise will reduce our dislikes, but we have to release first. Do this on a daily basis.
We should remove our arrogance, feelings and our demanding nature. If you don’t expect positive feelings of release, then do the NLP technique
Why did I select the third compartment?
One can accept the person totally after doing releasing techniques. There is no doubt about that.
Though, if we see that person again, we won’t know what to do. If we put them in a neutral compartment, then we will accept them easily. Therefore, you should not give up on ‘RULE your MIND’ techniques.
Neutral compartment will help us in accepting a person.
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Let us say, you want to come to Chennai.
Release your likes about Chennai then only you can come to Chennai.
- I release my likes for Chennai.
I like Chennai because of my liking to Hotel Saravana Bavan and Marina Beach in Chennai.
I accept my liking for Chennai.
Then, I release my liking for Chennai.
- I release my dislikes for Chennai.
I dislike Chennai, because of auto drivers, and it is very dirty.
What’s the desire that operates here?
There is a desire to control and to change it. For example, we say, ‘If I am given power, I will change it in no time’.
Here, we are only releasing the desires (or dislikes).
Likewise you can do the same when you are moving to a foreign country.
Release both your likes and dislikes related about a situation you wanted to change.
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