My son has a resistance to work. He will go late to office. He was warned three times.
One day he decides to go to office in casual wear. Even though I warned him, he didn’t want to listen to me.
Then, I decided to affirm, ‘I release my desire to change or control him’.
You have affirmed correctly. Please do it as many times as you can.
On and off our mind will not keep quiet. So we need to release our desire to control or change somebody.
Read the first part of the article here: https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/how-to-stop-the-mind-influencing-us-part-i/
Letting go the thoughts
How can we do it that?
How thoughts can be let off?
There will be resistance inside the mind to do so, as it does not want us to move forward spiritually in life.
Letting go seen inside our body
Is this letting go is something new that we have never seen?
If you watch your body, it is letting go. However, mind does not do that.
Let say you like eating Jangri (Indian sweet). Can you keep it in the mouth for long? It has to be released to the stomach. After digestion, if the stomach does not release it, then you have to go to hospital. Nature of the mouth is to let go.
Stomach has to let go to intestines. If intestines refuse to let go, imagine what will happen to us. Here cooperation among body organs is a must.
Jangri takes different forms in the end, losing its original form after digestion, absorption and elimination operations of the digestive tract.
Skin let go by sweating. Lungs exhales carbon dioxide. If heart stops circulating blood one-tenth of a second, then you will die. It does letting in and letting out blood.
Letting go action in nature
Morning has to go for noon to come and afternoon goes for evening to come. Letting go happens in a circular manner. Similarly, sun goes, and Moon comes.
Letting go is the process of nature. However, for mind it’s not possible. It does opposite of it, by holding on to things.
Holding on is the nature of the mind
Mind is the enemy to Body and Soul.
When you hold on to a thought, it means there is stagnation. Then you will have less of Prana (energy). Mind is always stagnated.
I and my boy-friend broke up last year though we love each other even now.
It all happened because of his friends as they cropped up misunderstandings between us. And he isn’t able to see that.
And I know he doesn’t have that much of courage to tell me that he still loves me. I really want to get back together with him.
Then please suggest me something so that I forget him easily as I am trying to get over him. But, as we work at the same place, it’s really difficult for me to see him every time everywhere around me and that turns me off.
And I am full of sad feelings.
Or tell me how I can get my real soul mate.
I could understand your pangs of love.
Only for your highest good I suggested that.
I honestly feel that you should lead a happy life.
Can everybody be happy?
One has to learn to be happy in spite of events.
When we want something intently, and when we resist what is happening then what we get is pain. Though we want pleasure, our resistance to any event and our incomplete understanding of the divine order, gives us pain only.
Just observe what is going on in the mind.
- As and when any thought come, just say, “Why not I release this? Yes, I let go of this thought?”
- Release everything – every feeling, every thought – that prevents you to forget him.
- If any thought or feeling does not get released, find out the desire behind this feeling or thought. If there is a desire to possess him release that desire.
- If there is a desire to change him or the event release that desire too.
Do the releasing techniques as given above.
If you can buy Bach flower remedies from your local homeopathy shop then buy:
- CHICORY (to overcome the love pangs)
- WALNUT (to release resistance and break away )
- WILLOW (to overcome resentment and anger towards friends)
- HORNBEAM (to move on)
Take those flower remedies by putting 6 pills of each in a bottle of water and keep on sipping that water from morning to evening.
Do this sipping for 15 days.
Put the pills once every day.
I have a BIG list of “shoulds”
“I should get up from the bed very early in the morning”
“I should keep the house clean”
“I should avoid sweets” (a classic example)
This is a list that contains items that we desire to do, but unable to do.
Why can’t we implement them
Whenever we want to do something, and if we don’t, then there is some resistance inside us. Though, interestingly we always find the reasons outside us, for not doing them. For example, the classic reason we give for any major setback in life is, “My family is not supporting me doing anything concrete in life”. Sometimes we say, “My family commitments don’t allow me to take up music as my hobby”.
How we developed this internal resistance
We learnt this resistance from our childhood days. Whenever our parents want us to do something, we resisted it. When our parents asked us to study, we pretended that we are studying. When they told us not to do something, we did it without their knowledge. This childhood behaviour became part of us, as internal resistance.
Mind Working in Opposite Directions
Our Life is dominated by two divisions that are inside our mind. One is the Parental Ego – our desires stem from here, and the other one the rebellion is our Child Ego.
There is always a conflict between the Parent Ego and the Child Ego. Desires coming from the Parent Ego are resisted by the Child Ego. This results in non-fulfilment of our desires.
This is like pressing acceleration and applying breaks at the same time. Why don’t we realise this? It’s because our desire is conscious, while the resistance is unconscious.
- “I am working hard but not making money” – something in me is resisting making money. If I release that resistance, then making money is a piece of cake.
- “I want to reduce my weight” – one part desires to be slim, while another part resists by eating all junk stuff.
How do I manage these two forces working in opposite direction
Let us take the example of not making enough money.
1. You are also resisting the present state. You are not able to accept your present state, for example, the fact that you are poor or overweight. Accept your present by affirming,
“I accept myself totally”
“I accept myself even though I am poor (or overweight)”
2. We should be aware of the two forces opposite to each other inside us.
“I want abundance of money” – is the desire. What’s the feeling behind lack of money? Welcome this feeling and release it. Release every feeling associated with lack of money. Affirm,
“I accept my lack of money”. Then start accepting the feelings and thoughts associated with it.
“I accept my feelings of shamefulness”
“I release my feeling of shamefulness”
“I release the thought, I can’t make money”
Then release your internal resistance.
“I release my resistance to earn ___________”.
3. Resistance means opposition. Therefore, affirm,
“I release my own opposition to making millions”
(When we see opposition outside us, we see nothing but our own opposition)
Do tapping while affirming the above for better results. Should it be done routinely? For better results, do it regularly or as soon as we get those feelings again.
Nobody is blocking us. The block is only inside us.