Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
Desire for approval in action
You can list the ways you seek desire for approval:
- Thank you for your appreciation
- I don’t want to hurt his feelings
- I should not reject him
- If I do this, he will be happy
- If I do this, he will not get angry
In addition, list the ways by which you allow yourself to be controlled by others or control others – Desire for approval.
You can term it as fear of rejection or disapproval, for example to influence others through Batch Flower Remedies (list this item too).
We have so much desire to control others and events. We use Bach Flower remedies either with a desire to change ourselves or others.
70% of the time we are operating with this desire and may be more, but not less. If we release this desire, most of the problems will be solved by itself!!
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Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
Brain is the hardware of the mind. The brain always stores memories of the people we like, in one compartment, and the people we do not like in another compartment.
At the same time, we come across people who are neutral to us, to whom we have no likes or dislikes. They do not have a participation in our life. They will be kept in a different compartment of the brain.
Remove the dislike for the person
- Visualize a white screen in front of you.
- Close your eyes. Use your hands and do it.
- Where is the person whom you like? They will be in one place.
- Find out where the person you dislike are stored inside your brain. You will get a feeling in some part of your brain.
- Find out where neutral compartment people are.
- Move the person you dislike to neutral place.
Repeat the exercise over a few days or weeks until you can release the dislike for the person disliked.
Do the releasing first
Do not do this without doing the releasing technique first as you should know how much your feelings and desires are responsible for disharmony caused.
Automatically, the other person you hate will go from you. Even if he is present, you will not be afraid that he can control you. He will not be in your life to control you anymore.
Therefore, you can concentrate on something else. The NLP exercise will reduce our dislikes, but we have to release first. Do this on a daily basis.
We should remove our arrogance, feelings and our demanding nature. If you don’t expect positive feelings of release, then do the NLP technique
Why did I select the third compartment?
One can accept the person totally after doing releasing techniques. There is no doubt about that.
Though, if we see that person again, we won’t know what to do. If we put them in a neutral compartment, then we will accept them easily. Therefore, you should not give up on ‘RULE your MIND’ techniques.
Neutral compartment will help us in accepting a person.
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