No it is not so. You can express your anger. But, your anger should not develop into hatred towards the person you are angry about. You should not continue to feel angry.
Once the anger has served its purpose, you should forget about it.
When you alight/get down from the bus you are travelling, you will not be running behind it.
In the same way, once you have expressed your emotion, you should not keep thinking about it. The reason being, if you stay with an emotion for a long time, your body will get affected.
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Develop confidence when jobless
You can learn a lot by observing people. Learn to understand your existing relationships – with your family members, friends, and relatives.
Move with them closely, express and communicate with love as if you were meeting them for the first time and as though this would be the last time you are going to meet them.
Contribute something to them lovingly. Help them in any manner you can. It need not be financial.
This will boost your self-confidence and enthusiasm. Normally one feels confident and enthusiastic only after getting the job. Now, you are acquiring this state before getting the job.
This will also make you a better person. You will also learn how to relate to your colleagues and superiors when you move to your future workplace.
When you are ready to learn anything new, then this period would become a period of relaxation, instead of a period of frustration.
“You are entitled to action only. This is the Law of Karma. Leave the fruit to me” – says Krishna.
A simple way to implement it
Living with Awareness is an important subject. If you apply this technique, you do not need attend lectures on Bhagavat Gita.
Living with awareness is a life process. If it is done regularly, it can change our lives significantly.
Do it systematically.
Play it like a game. Do not think it as an exercise.
To put it simple, you release all thoughts and feelings prior to action.
Releasing thoughts associated with an action
You get a phone call.
We assume it is a bad call.
We think and get irritated, why I should get such calls during late nights.
Can you release this irritation? Affirm, “I let go this irritation”.
Our actions are contaminated with unwanted thoughts
Whenever you are about to perform an action, it is preceded by thoughts.
Release those thoughts.
That’s does not mean you are prevented from doing the action. You just do the action.
Then you are in the present – without any thought, and only doing actions.
If some other thoughts come, tell them, “You can come later. This is not the time for you now.”
If you do any action, without any thought or feeling, then its 100 percent completed.
You are entitled only to act
You are not entitled to think or feel before an action.
If you tell the thought to go, it will go.
After the action, if the results are not to our expectations, we will comment badly about concerned people. We will remark, “I wasted so much time with them”.
Affirm then, “I release the thought. I let go this thought.”
When you put a counter thought like this, the mind gets confused as it cannot continuously change its thought flow or pattern.
After releasing all the thoughts that appears in your mind, comes the time for your action(s).
“My wife is very possessive and highly interfering”.
Take one quality of your wife at a time.
Assume that quality is within you. In fact, you will be having those qualities inside you. That’s why you have attracted her to you.
Now, do the following, taking one quality a day:
- First day: “I release my interfering nature to Chicory.” Keeping this intention in mind, chant “CHICORY”.
- Second day: “I release my possessive nature to Chicory”. Chant “CHICORY”.
- Third day: “I release my insecurities to Chicory”. Chant “CHICORY”.
While doing the above exercise, please do the following too:
- Be sure to thank the opposite person for revealing the inadequacies and shortcomings inside you.
- Reflect on your past, find out whether you have exhibited these qualities towards others, and then release them to Chicory.
This does not mean that there is no place for emotions in life. However, they should be used as different tool and then they had to be let go. There is place for anger too, but if it not forgotten or released then it becomes a rancor.