Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
Desire for approval in action
You can list the ways you seek desire for approval:
- Thank you for your appreciation
- I don’t want to hurt his feelings
- I should not reject him
- If I do this, he will be happy
- If I do this, he will not get angry
In addition, list the ways by which you allow yourself to be controlled by others or control others – Desire for approval.
You can term it as fear of rejection or disapproval, for example to influence others through Batch Flower Remedies (list this item too).
We have so much desire to control others and events. We use Bach Flower remedies either with a desire to change ourselves or others.
70% of the time we are operating with this desire and may be more, but not less. If we release this desire, most of the problems will be solved by itself!!
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Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
As you said do not resist allow things to happen!!
How cannot we resist – myself verge of losing job – hubby not yet got job – severe mental stress killing me very badly. How I allow myself not to feel stressed. Please let me know?
When you are on the verge of losing the job, will your worry or fear get the job back?
If so, have fear and worry.
Your fear and worry or anger is what is known as Resistance.
When you accept what is happening, you may see and utilize other avenues.
A message is received (from the incident why you lost the job).
Instead of being overtaken by the rush of emotions and thoughts, and becoming judgmental about what is happening (which is of no use), go within and watch your reaction.
Say, Yes I accept this emotion. I release this.
Go on releasing whatever thought comes to your mind.
After sometime, analyze why this emotion or these types of thoughts come.
Ask yourself is it because of your desire to change the event?
If the answer is yes, say, I release my desire to control or change what is happening.
Ask another question.
Are all the emotions because of fear?
Whatever we fear will manifest.
Say, releasing this fear, I release my desire for security.
Then when the mind is almost clear of restlessness, start chanting “I accept whatever happens totally”.
Check out the “RELEASE your RESISTANCE” CD, which will help you to release your resistance to find happiness and success in life: http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2013/04/10/release-your-resistance-cd/
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