Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
Our contradictory behaviors – Home vs. Work
We will keep criticizing people at home for small things, while we tolerate more in the work place.
On the contrary, when an assistant asks for small things, you may reject it using office procedures as an excuse. Though at home, you might prefer to say yes for whatever your wife asks for.
You may reject somebody and dislike somebody else. The same dislike will operate against you in some other place. Somebody else will reject you or dislike you.
She got into some problem in her office
Anjali was blamed for something she didn’t do, saying that the work comes under her jurisdiction. Whatever explanation she wanted to give was not accepted, even though she is an honest worker.
Then why this should happen to her?
I asked her whether she had rejected someone close to her. She said all along she treated her husband like dirt. I told her when she changes her attitude toward him, her office situation will become alright and it did.
When you are rejecting a person with no reason, then you will be rejected unnecessarily in some other place. If you constantly find fault with somebody then you will be criticised by somebody else. This is a mental cycle.
Abusing somebody who had asked for a donation
If you had insulted somebody unnecessarily then you will be insulted unnecessarily.
Somebody wanted a donation from Arun for charity purpose. He rejected him giving not only flimsy reasons but also criticised him vehemently. Later, after two years, he was charged by custom authorities and asked him to pay more.
We do not observe life at all. The person who came for donation was wounded. Now Arun is wounded. This is law of life.
Therefore, whatever you do, release you desire, emotions behind it and then do it.
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Posted by Naran S. Balakumar
Read part I in the series: https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/how-to-stop-the-mind-influencing-us-part-i/
And Part II: “The need for Letting GO” – https://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2013/02/07/the-need-for-letting-go/
How to bring the mind to do letting go?
Let us say, you are angry.
Then affirm, “I am not the mind. I feel angry.”
Here you have changed “I am angry” to “I feel angry”.
If you are happy then affirm, “I feel happy”, and so on.
Prepare a checklist of emotions
List the emotions you are feeling currently.
Irrespective of whether they are positive or negative, release them.
Let us see an example
Somebody cheats you.
How you let go the emotions attached with this incident?
List the emotions first.
- Let him go to hell
- He is not fair
- How can he do this to me, when I have done so much to him?
(One thought will generate another thought)
Take the first one “Let him to hell”.
- Affirm, “I accept this thought.”
- I ask the mind, “Can I release it?”
- If it says no, then I question back the mind, “When can I release it?”
- If it keeps quiet, then I ask the mind, “Can I release at least 10% of the thought?”
- If it says yes, then I release the 10%.
It is just a mind game. Playing games with mind like this will confuse it.
A confused mind cannot have any impact on your actions.
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